Father arrested for raising cain at school

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David Parker’s 5 year old son came home from Kindergarten carrying a bag of books containing information ranging from ethnic recipes to children and families from other parts of the world, to teach diversity. The book that set Mr. Parker off was a book called ‘Who’s In a Family?” by Robert Skutch, which depicts different kinds of families, including same-sex couples raising children.

This book prompted a series of email exchanges between Parker and School officials and prompted a meeting at the school which ended with Parker’s arrest for refusing to leave the school property.

Parker was asking for permission to allow for his child to be excluded from discussions regarding same-sex couples. School officials refused.

I’m on both sides of this issue, personally, I see nothing wrong with the book and its contents, the 4 pages that actually bring up two dads and two moms do not discuss anything even remotely sexual or explicit. In fact here is ALL of the text from the book that deals with same sex parents:

“A family can be made up in many different ways.”

“Laura and Kyle live with their two moms, Joyce and Emily, and a poodle named Daisy. It takes all four of them to give Daisy her bath.”

“Robin’s family is made up of her dad, Clifford, her dad’s partner, Henry, and Robin’s cat, Sassy. Clifford and Henry take turns making dinner for their family.”

Now I challenge anyone to pull a nasty, sex ridden meaning from that text.

I do not see anything wrong with the subject matter in this book. Which would you rather have your five year-old read, something that touches same sex marriage, or something that harps on divorce and broken households? I vote for #1 myself.

As for the issue of the school refusing notification of classroom subject matter, I have to side with the father on this issue. It seems like every day we hear another story about two little kids found in a bathroom, perfoming some sexual act on each other. Stories about teachers teaching our Junior High kids how to put on condoms. If this is the kind of environment my children are being subject to, I demand notification of sexual or innapropriate subject matter if I deem it necessary. I am the parent and the interests of my children until they are deemed adults in a legal sense, is my responsibility, not the schools.

14 Comments

  1. Dorian (Black Republican from NYC Suburbs)  •  May 1, 2005 @3:28 PM

    I suppose one side, it probably is good to teach our kids or kids we will have in the future about same-sex marriage, as it is slowly becoming a part of our society. However on the other side, many such as myself, are vehemently against what we see as the war against the instituion of marriage. I simply wouldn’t want my tax-dollars to support the teaching or teaching about what I see as a corruption of society

  2. Zaphriel  •  May 2, 2005 @12:25 AM

    Their is so much wrong with this story.
    1. Parents definatly should have a say so in their childrens education.
    2.Parents should act in a more civil manner than this, to resolve such a dispute. “raising cain” and refusing to leave when asked is not the proper way.
    This is what makes involvement in the PTA for example very important.
    In this case, for this child, nobody won.

  3. James  •  May 2, 2005 @10:42 AM

    Might I ask this, if Paul and Jimmy three doors down from you on your block got married, how would this alter the vows you took when you and your wife got married?

    All I see is two people, who love each other and have decided to devote themselves to each other… in the same way a man and a woman do.

    You may not agree with the morals of the issue but what’s the difference if I substituted in a Black man and a White woman, same thing… they’re still human.

  4. Scott  •  May 2, 2005 @11:36 AM

    James, bringing up the black man and white woman doesn’t hold water against same sex marriages. Inter-racial marriages that you spoke of are still between a man and a woman. The one thing that plagues this society is the fact that same sex marriages might become a norm. Why does this plague society you might ask? Well, think about it… society needs people, ie procreation. With this being accepted as a norm, this would weaken society and the norms and values that have been setup.

    Note: I’m taking a look at this from a sociologist perspective. My own personal biases are not in there… I have a love for all people because that is what I believe in. Labeling people as anomolies and shit only gets in the way.

    So, in conclusion, I feel (just as the father probably does) that teaching his child about this even in a way that waters it down goes against belief systems, and societal forces that everyone around us has helped create. Does that mean they shouldn’t change? Now there lies the most interesting question, that of which I don’t know.

  5. James  •  May 2, 2005 @4:33 PM

    “With this being accepted as a norm, this would weaken society and the norms and values that have been setup.”

    That being that homosexuality is a choice. It’s not, you’re not a heterosexual man when you go to bed and a homosexual man when you wake up.

    Being that it’s not a choice, how can you argue that accepting it, would have an effect on population? If it WERE a decision, I could see the correlation.

    Would it suck ROYALLY if population began to dwindle because too MANY people were gay? Yeah, I would think so, but you can’t make someone into something they’re not, just so they “fit in”.

  6. Scott  •  May 3, 2005 @2:20 AM

    I’m sorry, I don’t think I will every believe that homosexuality is anything other than a choice. Many things in your life might have lead up to it, or caused you to lean that way but it is not how you are born. If it wasn’t 3:15am I”d get into it more, but I promise you I will back up my point.

  7. James  •  May 3, 2005 @8:25 AM

    Findings by a team of University of California, Los Angeles researchers suggest homosexuality isn’t a choice.

    The UCLA scientists discovered 54 genes in mice they say indicate sexual identity is hard-wired into the brain before birth and the development of the sex organs.

    According to the research published in the latest edition of the journal Molecular Brain Research, the genes are produced in different amounts in male and female brains before being influenced by hormones. Specifically, 18 of the genes are produced at higher levels in male brains and 36 are produced at higher levels in female brains.

    Historically, the hormones estrogen and testosterone were thought by scientists to call the sexuality shots.

    “Our findings may explain why we feel male or female, regardless of our actual anatomy,” lead UCLA researcher, Eric Vilain, a professor of human genetics, urology and pediatrics at UCLA, said in a statement.

    While stressing the study was “not about finding the gay gene,” Vilain said some of the 54 genes might explain homosexual behavior.

  8. James  •  May 3, 2005 @8:27 AM

    Being able to choose if you’re gay or not, is just about as silly as saying “I wish I was Asian”.

    It’s genetic makeup not choice that makes us who we are physically.

  9. Scott  •  May 3, 2005 @12:21 PM

    Ok… then going on with that same statement, how are some homosexuals able to become heterosexuals then through a process of resocialization? That in and of itself shows that they can chose to not be one, but hey… if you say it’s genetic…. sure.

  10. James  •  May 3, 2005 @1:07 PM

    Almost all studies show that no one, gay or straight, can change their sexual orientation. Our orientation is almost certainly determined sometime between conception and the first years of life. Gay and straight people might be able to change their behavior but not their underlying orientation. We do not, however, choose our sexual orientation. Dr. George Weinberg writes in Society and the Healthy Homosexual, “From what I have seen, the harm to the homosexual man or woman done by the person’s trying to convert is mutifold…First of all, the venture is almost certain to fail…In trying to convert, you will deepen your belief that you are one of nature’s misfortunes.”

    The American Psychological Association says, “It is no more abnormal or sick to be gay than to be left-handed. There is, in fact, a growing body of evidence to indicate that sexual orientation is determined before birth by some combination of genetic and biological events. Since it is not an illness, it needs, nor has, no cure.

    Though scientists do not know for certain, much of the research suggests that people may be born with their sexual orientation or that orientation is set by a very young age. People do not have a choice as to whether they are gay or straight or bisexual. The only real choice appears to be in whether or not we live out who we are, or pretend to be what we are not.

    Most responsible research suggests that people cannot change their sexual orientation, but that some people can change their behaviors–at a price.

    Most people do not one day wake up to say, “I’m gay.” Sexual orientation is something we discover about ourselves over time.

  11. Scott  •  May 3, 2005 @4:11 PM

    Worldly wisdom can only go so far as far as I see it. I base my beliefs on creationism, from the diety figure that make us, man and woman for each other, for procreation. Now does this mean that I will treat them as lesser beings or “sinners?” Jeez, we all are. All created equal, and all sin is equal. He loves them as much as me, but I still believe that it’s a choice. I’m sure everyone knows what happened to Soddom and Gomorrah. Not something He is happy with, but he still loves his people.

  12. Chris  •  May 4, 2005 @6:44 AM

    It are issues like this that turned me away from teaching in public schools. The agenda and lesson-plans forced into the curriculum are becoming too liberal. How is it that we dont do the pledge of allegiance anymore because that may offend someone but if teaching about same-sex marriage offends me I’m just some Christian wacko?

    Parents SHOULD be able to withdraw their children from any classes or topics that they feel appropriate. If the opposite turns out to be the case when my children are in school I’ll withdraw them completely. I pay the taxes that support the school & the children are my responsibility. I have every right to do so.

    Concerning the matter of sexuality being a choice or not here are my thoughts.

    I have read both sides of the issue and am yet undecided on the outcome. I do not know for certain whether it is a choice or not. What I do know is that it is wrong in the sight of God. (There’s that Christian wacko again. Do you feel oppressed yet?) My feelings on the matter are that it is no different than being genetically alchoholic or a crack-addict by birth. Just because you are predetermined to do it does not make it right. It is a struggle that you need to face in this life. Everyone is given their tests & trials. This is yours.

    Now do not assume that I hate homosexuals. I know & have known plenty. They are, for the most part, good people. They try to do whats right & find hapiness in this life just like the rest of us. They’re not any less of a person. They are not loved less by God. He loves us all with the love a Father has for a child. They just need to overcome their challenges in life. Challenges that we all have and each very different.

  13. Scott  •  May 4, 2005 @4:12 PM

    I like this guy… Chris I give you props :).

  14. Lisa  •  Jul 26, 2006 @4:05 PM

    I find it interesting that anyone thinks it would be a “choice” to be homosexual. Who would choose to be an outcast in society?
    I would also like to know if Scott thinks you can choose this way because he chose to be hetrosexual. ?

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